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muttly



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PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 10:57 pm    Post subject: lawyer sleeping with my wife Reply with quote

My wife is recieving legal advice from a lawyer for free. She is also using a paid lawyer. The free advice lawyer is sleeping with my wife. He wrote an email stating he was having sex and that he was giving her legal advice. He also dared me to report the matter to the NT Law Society. I did.

Do i have a case? Aren't lawyers supposed to be objective? They met when she was distressed and vunerable.





The rest of the story is bizarre. Apart from my wife i am a virgin. My wife is convinced i've had mulitple affairs. There's nothing i can say or do to convince her likewise. Her affair is a revenge act.

Also my wife has hit me several times. one day i said i'd show her an exapmle of how it feels so i gave her a push/slap. Now the police are onto me. It's been 3 months since then.

I forgive my wife and will take her back. We go to the court on Tuesday for parenting stuff. I don't have a layer, she does. We then go to another court on wednesday because i put a restaining order on her- no violence but full contact.

She believes she is innocent 100% and i am responsible.

2 times in the past year she has been talking about leaving so i said if that's what she wants i can't stop her, bur i love her and never want a divorce. She is an ex muslim and to her she believes i said 2 times i want to divorce her.

She kicked me out of home and claims i kicked her out.


I'm going nuts, and next week the lawyers will roast me.

Any advice?
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D4E



Joined: 05 Jan 2006
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Location: Western Australia

PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2008 11:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I doubt you have a case against the bloke she is sleeping with because I doubt she was his client initially, as far as all is concerned he's just another person in her life.

If he is a family law lawyer and giving her advice well I guess she just has an advantage when communicating with her lawyer who is processing her case.

I guess you've realized two wrongs don't make a right and you could have perhaps thought of other ways than violence, it doesn't matter how minimal it's still violence and will put you behind the eight ball ( big mistake but a mistake ).

Most people like to reduce their own guilt by blaming the other person 100%, it's all par for the course and pointless to try and convince them otherwise.

An X anything religiously speaking bears nothing on legal procedure as does her opinion that you have ask for a divorce or not.

Who's been living in the family home or was this a rental, either way this is a fact that should be easily proved by evidence.

Next Tuesday at court leaves no time to prepare anything family law is a complex matter that needs to be prepared for.

Have you been to mediation yet ??

I'll try and reply to any concerns that I may be able to answer but you should have responded to her application by now.

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spike
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Joined: 16 Nov 2005
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Location: Port Stephens NSW

PostPosted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 12:02 am    Post subject: Hello Muttly Reply with quote

The best solicitor will have little bearing on the facts and that is what you need to concentrate on. If you can avoid being scared of a solicitor and stick to the facts and you will be way out in front. We don't give legal advice at dids. Any recommendations or suggestions you get from this website would be based on events that occured in cases that the guys have been involved in. A lot will be pretty close to the mark from what I have seen over the years.
You need good legal advice in relation to the AVO as there are many different things you can do depending on what you want to achieve. If you can't get any advice prior to an AVO hearing send me a private message.
In relation to the ex you also have many options and there are ways to try to get back together if that is where you really feel you want to go. It will be harder to try if you accept the AVO.
You could try and get any legal preceedings adjourned until you get some further advice .
It would be wise to contact a mediation service or Family relationship centre and make an appointment for some assistance asap.
Try and catch your breath from time to time too. I know that isn't easy but it is the most important thing I could suggest to you.
Hang in there
Chris
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Altricio Tan



Joined: 05 Jan 2006
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Location: NSW

PostPosted: Sun Jul 06, 2008 2:47 pm    Post subject: Consent to AVO Without Admission [of guilt] Reply with quote

Never agree to this mate.

My ex-lawyer advised me, "To save you money, just consent to this AVO. Anyway, the Family Court [FC] will override it."

What happened later? Those FC child protection "experts" used it against me.

And speaking of applying for an AVO against you, as mentioned elsewhere, it is easier for her to do this than for a kid to buy lollipop from a candy store. Oh, yes. There was a time when my ex-wife had not one but TWO AVOs concurrently enforced against me.
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