Hi guys,

As you know the wife and I are separated but still in the family home.
In the past she has suffered from chronic fatigue syndrome for several years. It has slowly improved and at the start of last year she was able to return to work part time. This then became a managerial role which she has held for about 12 months.
Now that we are separated (her choice by the way), she is of course under stress. Worried about money, how she will manage, etc. She reduced her work hours then saw the doctor who have her a work cert for 3 weeks off work.
While I dont doubt she is stressed , I do wonder what the hidden motives are. If she substantiates all this there will no doubt be a claim for higher maintenance including spousal maintenance.
Obviously, she cant be made to work. She is jealous of my good income and will expect me to support her to the max.
Is there anything I can do or just cop it on the chin???

Cheers,
BlueDad

Call me cynical but I gather while she is having three weeks off work home "alone" you are at work?

Do you have any concerns of her seeing or being involved with another guy? Is she that scheming? Mine was.

Never trust a woman after seperation. They will lie their ass off to you to get their way.

This just wreaks of affair to me. But I may be wrong. I was wrong once. that was the day I said I do.

Nah that's not fair I did have a good marriage.

Are there kids involved?

We have two kids - 10 & 13 - if not for them, I wouldnt hang around.

You may be right about an affair DR. She's pretty secretive about a lot of things. Even locks her car while it's in the garage! Either she hides documents in there or suspects I might sabotage the car Who knows.
Anyway, if she's having an affair I don't care. I'm over her. But as you know , with kids you cant make a clean break.

We were overpaid by centrelink with ftb a & b because our income estimate wasnt up to date. Owe them about $3000. Another reason for her not to work

I guess it's a case of why work when someone else will work for you and why work if it reduces your benefits.

Being secretive is a pretty good sign she's up to something.
I bet she don't leave her mobile lying around either? If she has one.