i just want to say what a great idea this is.. Good luck to all you guys..

Hi lost_in_us,

wow, not a goood senerio.

Not easy for you to get a handle om whats going on when you don't rally know how she feels, even though all the signs are there saying you have been used as a means to an end.

The thought that this for her may have been a holiday romance that she never thought would follow her home.

I think you really need to think hard about where you want to live and make that your first priority, if you don't like the old U.S of A and prefer to live in the lucky country then come home.

Do you have employment over there or are you relying on others ?

Are you sure the child is yours ?

Are you staying in hope that you can rekindle the romance you has ?

Sort your feeling out and be sure it's what you want, there are many variables that you must take into account before you can committ to being a Father.

For instance how will feel if she refuses contact and what will you do ?

How do you feel if she starts a relationship with someone else whilst she is pregnant ?

How will you deal with it ?

Good luck I really hope you keep posting, your a long way away in a foreign land and that in itself is emensly difficult.

Best wishes

HI lost_in_us

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