That is what mesline originally said to me and many of these so called legal avenues tried to suggest also. They all just want the fathers to give up and take it up the A$$.

What about the kids! No consideration of equal parenting for the fathers.

Fight what you can mate but don't send yourself to an early grave.

The more brick walls they throw at me, the more determined I become.

I will not just sit down quietly and become another Family Court Industry statistic..

I will fight for what is RIGHT, and anyone who's says I'm wasting my time can KISS MY ASS!

"I will fight for what is RIGHT, and anyone who's says I'm wasting my time can KISS MY ASS!"

That statement was not directed at any of you guys going through this either by the way!!

It's directed at the beauracrats who think they know what is best for MY children!

3 Months, 3 Court hearings and FINALLY the passports have been surrended.

No penalty for the ex breaching the court orders though.......

Thought it must be time for an update as it's been a while.

Today was our second hearing before the judge, and what I can say.......


WOW.

The day turned out to be the exact opposite of what i was expecting!!

For the first time in over 2 years, I sat in the same room as my ex wife and the ICL and we finally had the opportunity to talk to each other. Things were a little hesitant at first, but after around 15 mins, the conversation started to flow more freely. We both managed to express our thoughts without agression to each other, and were able to come to some compromises with our children.

I now get more time with our boys, and for the first time in over 2 years, my supervision has finally been relaxed to the point I am able to take them out on my own for periods of up to 2 hours at a time....

It's still early days, even though we are over 2 years into the battle, but I got the sense today that the barriers of hate and agression towards each other may finally be breaking down. Still not sure how things will progress, but being the eternal optimist, heres hoping things start to move forward...


All the best guys and girls

Great news Brock. It's a credit to your never say die attitude and how you feel about your kids. A shining example of what can be achieved despite our often unjust family law system. Well done mate.

Cheers Dave.. I'm the first to admit that at times, I felt like giving up. But when I sat down and tried to imagine a life where our boys wouldnt be a part of it, it just made the fight within me even stronger..

Thanks again..

On a side note, we are not back in court now until the end of august, so I get a long overdue reprieve from all the paperwork!!

Thanks again

Hey phillmyglassop,
In one of your early posts you mentioned that her father, who has unsupervised care over the children was proviously abusive. If you can find out where they lived at those times you may be able to supeonea the police files. This may prove the potential danger the children may be under.

Also in relation to the allegations against you being disproven, by the police and other authorities you may be able to sue for slander or libel (?). If you win these cases before the courts then that may be additional evidence you can use in the future.

Then take the pyscologists report stating that the ex's environment is detrimental to the development of your children. You may then be able to gain more time or custody of your sons.

I don't have your experience in this matter but they may be avenues to follow up on.

Don't rest too much as the ex only needs to make a phone call to the police with unfounded bovine excrement to procreate you well and truely.

Think of why she may have changed her tact. I can only think that she is going to try something else.

Gain a copy of the police statements she has made or phone calls that have been made to the police which have resulted in you being pulled in for an interview and that have been proved to have been unfounded and present these to the courts have it presented so as to show the ex's unstable mind that is not fixed in reality and thus this extends to having a potentially dangerous situation at her residence.

Hope this may be of help for you. But please be careful to not relax too much.

Remember women can and are a lot better at manipulations and sticking the proverbial blade in the ribs when the guard is down.

Congrats philmyglassop, a great feeling isn't it without the agression and having some reasoning for a change.

You know your situation best but I can't help but understand what traolcoladis mentioned, it may not even apply in your situation but I have always been correct when my ex is being nice there has always been an ill wind coming.

I'm waiting for it don't worry!..lol


But had a great weekend with the boys...Trout fishing, tree climbing and a couple of dvds....stuffed now though!