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commandocop



Joined: 28 Mar 2010
Posts: 228
Location: NSW, Australia

PostPosted: Fri Dec 24, 2010 8:43 pm    Post subject: xmas Reply with quote

well xmas is interesting, my ex has started to stalk me and telling me she is going to take my daughter and theirs nothing i can do to stop her.

even though i have sole custody in a final order, although it does say that their can be limited contact at my discression for identity purposes in the order. i have to do whats best for my daughter, but the emails were through internet forums i visit, i was upto 15 emails in 5 minutes, all very angry and hostile, and threatening.

we drafted a email, which basically said, your emails are verry hostile, angry, and i deem them as stalking, threatening, harrassing, if you do not stop i will take out an avo.

if you want to see your daughter for the purposes of identity only, we willr equire you to prove your psycologically stable and improved. think of your daughters needs first, she has spent 8 months with out contact and has delt with it in her own way and is doing very good now.

we didnt put in their that 7 months ago my daughter turned around and said i dont want mummy to be mummy anymore i want you to be mummy and doesnt mention her what so ever anymore.

i also got a bag of gifts, from her parents, their not wrapped, theirs a large sum of cash, and a lot of toys, nothing wrapped, all inside an old tv box. theirs a printed word document which just has i love you from mummy. not signed or anything, and a hand written card, from the outlaws.

im not sure how to give them to my daughter. or what to do with the cash, i guess i put it into the savings account i have where ive put every cent of her csa money, a woping 13 bucks a month i get.

what do you think i should do?
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D4E



Joined: 05 Jan 2006
Posts: 2045
Location: Western Australia

PostPosted: Fri Dec 24, 2010 9:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Personally CC,

I'd wrap the prezzies and leave them under the tree, the ones from mum will be of course from Santa as are the ones from dad and the ones from the X inlaws, well a little more difficult if you dislike them intensely but if you think they are in some small way reasonable perhaps letting her know it's from gramps and grandma, she may have a few small questions but at least it's the truth, if you feel they are a threat to her then Santa just dropped off a few more prezzies than expected. I think your right with the money, put it in her account and document it.

Later when she's older she may appreciate she was not forgotten and that what happened did so for her safety. Lets face it as time goes on all efforts from her mother may simply stop.

Best of luck with your decision D4E

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commandocop



Joined: 28 Mar 2010
Posts: 228
Location: NSW, Australia

PostPosted: Sat Dec 25, 2010 8:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

well their still in the box, i never gave them to he just yet, i was thinking of giving her one every few weeks, coz their are so many of them...

was worried just something would happen today, but noting so far.. dont know what will happen.

i went to the storage shed yesterday, she had one where she put all the stuff she got out of the house when she stripped the house, she hadnt paid a bills for the past year, not since we split up and i stopped putting money into her account for it, all the contents were seized due to unpaid bills months ago, the storage shed was double locked, and secured. and paperwork done.

and a few days ago, it was broken into, her padlock was removed and not their, no damage to that lock or area.

the double lock was belted, chopped, sawed and then eventually burnt, with out it breaking.

then the door was ripped off its tracks, as it was a roller door, and gotten 2 feet up.

90% of the contents were removed, well im presuming, i dont know what was in their since i left but it was chockers before hand., it was rummaged everything was gone through


the guy sold me my old scooter back cheaply as it was still in my name and he had no keys, he would of had to do more paperwork for it apparently and get keys. not worth his while.

the locks on it were all smashed, locks broken off, their was my police uniform in the top box that is no longer there. their was a bent knife sitting on the seat. it was covered in an inch of dust, the oil cap was double threaded, and had stuff spilled all around it, something i wouldnt of done put it that way.

my new 200 buck battery, i put in not long before i left, is dead and totalled. it obviously was taken from the house about when i left and when she took the house. was terrible condition, also has a lot of white scrape marks all over it, not sure where they would of been from.

in short, the scooters stuffed, i drained all the fuel tank and washed it out with metho, no easy feat since its deep inside its belly, gota dismantle the whole thing, the oils, flushed twice, transmission fluid, the only thing i could see tampered with was the oil cap, but who knows.

will be offloading instead of keeping it i think, might trade my nice bike in, which is hard to think of, since i brought it when i joined the academy, near new, been part of me, through my ex;s [CENSORED] its been my sanity, its survived a marrage, a morgage, a birth and now a divorce, extrordinary for a motorbike..
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