AUSTRALIAN DADS FORUM - Help After Divorce and Separation

Altricio Tan · Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 413 Location: NSW

To everything there is a season,
and a time for every purpose under heaven:

a time to be born, and a time to die; .....
a time to weep, and a time to laugh; .....
a time to mourn, and a time to dance; .....
a time to gain, and a time to lose; .....
a time to love, and a time to hate; .....

Colin Spratt · Joined: 21 May 2006 Posts: 680 Location: coffs harbour

Well placed my friend. Thanks for the reminder of God speaking with us.

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This Site is very helpful to those who are trying to find their way back to God.
It matters not ,.. what stage you are at in you search for meaning and truth.

View the entire Site and let me know if you wish your own thoughts...or questions.
You are worth it.

My very best regards to all the Guys and Gals.
Col

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Altricio Tan · Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 413 Location: NSW

For me, friend, it's a time to hate.

ash_stephens · Joined: 22 Apr 2009 Posts: 172 Location: Lota Qld

Hey AT

As I read your posts I hear your frustration and I can't help but hope that you can find that something to give you some peace.

I think that most would agree that despite the up-beat voice of reason that we portray, most here probably still secretly hope for some form of justice and carry the hope that events will come full circle... even if just a little bit. From my experience, if you cling to the notion of vengeance, the person that hurts most is yourself. It won't do any good for you or your relationship with your kids or anyone else for that matter.

It's okay to be pi*&ed off, but it can be a destructive force when it's left to fester.
I don't usually spruik about beliefs as it so often ends in fruitless arguments, but I do know that being in a prayer-ful relationship with the Man Upstairs has helped me. I've sworn and cursed him like any good son would their father, and now I go to him for advice.

Ash

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Altricio Tan · Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 413 Location: NSW

Grab a copy of that movie and, perhaps, you'll understand me better.

Hate keeps a man alive. Keeps that burning desire to change things burning. Never would have written like this if there were no hate in me.

Depression and despair lead him to commit suicide. Almost went there. Gotta keep away from indulging such luxury.

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To really understand love, one must have experienced hate.

Altricio Tan · Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 413 Location: NSW

ash_stephens wrote:

Hey AT

As I read your posts I hear your frustration and I can't help but hope that you can find that something to give you some peace.

I think that most would agree that despite the up-beat voice of reason that we portray, most here probably still secretly hope for some form of justice and carry the hope that events will come full circle... even if just a little bit. From my experience, if you cling to the notion of vengeance, the person that hurts most is yourself. It won't do any good for you or your relationship with your kids or anyone else for that matter.

It's okay to be pi*&ed off, but it can be a destructive force when it's left to fester.
I don't usually spruik about beliefs as it so often ends in fruitless arguments, but I do know that being in a prayer-ful relationship with the Man Upstairs has helped me. I've sworn and cursed him like any good son would their father, and now I go to him for advice.

Ash

Yes, ash_stephens, best that I posted here. Now, my children know the truth.
They’ve been kept in the dark. Didn’t know what was going on in Court. Media’s been muted. Only heard whatever crap their mum fed them. Now, things are clearer to them. They’ve been robbed of their relationship with their dad. Thanks to our beloved fls!
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“Let it be said by our children’s children that when we were tested, we refused to let this journey end, that we did not turn back, nor did we falter; and with eyes fixed on the horizon and God’s grace upon us, we carried forth that great gift of freedom and delivered it safely to future generations. (Pres. Obama)”
Cheers

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Altricio Tan · Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 413 Location: NSW

Colin Spratt wrote:

Well placed my friend. Thanks for the reminder of God speaking with us.

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This Site is very helpful to those who are trying to find their way back to God.
It matters not ,.. what stage you are at in you search for meaning and truth.

View the entire Site and let me know if you wish your own thoughts...or questions.
You are worth it.

My very best regards to all the Guys and Gals.
Col

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Chat on ! You are most welcome on my turf !

Yes, my friend.

Marriage breakdown changed my life. The lure for wealth and fame no longer hold the same fascination or urgency it once did. It is difficult to know why. They say that those who have had a near-death experience often use their second chance at life to redeem their earlier mistakes; some, like you, pursue the spiritual; and others search for meaning in what remains of their existence on this earth. Discovering what this is for me has now become a quest. Smile

No matter what happens, I'm gonna make it. If I'm not happy, I'll just fake it...I've been thru backstabbers, scumbags and lies. I got a whole list of people I despise.

Cheers

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