At the time when my soul was being ripped from my life, I could not find any help for men and had to do it a loan, there was 2 whole pages in the yellow pages just for women to get help and one help line for men, I rang this number and a women answered and asked what do you want, I asked to speak to a man and she said there are no men here, it was run by women. I didn't know anyone at the time, I was working hard to make a living for my family , as you had to be in Australia for more then 2 years before you got and assistance from any gov department.

Does anyone know if there is a group in New Zealand like this ?

I have been dealing with losing my kids since 2002 I have had no one to talk to and have had to deal with the whole deal by myself, as there are no groups like this that I have found in NZ, I get to see my 3 kids 1 month a year at Christmas, I spent 9 months in Australia starting a new life, I had been with my wife for 8 years, she found out that my prenuptial agreement from NZ did not stand up in the Australian court and could have a go at everything I had before I meet her. Over a hundred thousand dollars latter I find my self back in NZ with a federal court order to see my children once a year. And a have had noting but abuse and lies told to my children about me while i am on the phone she would yell out to the kids talking to me "tell your f...n father to pay his maintenance" I pay this every month. She has had new breasts implants, just brought a brand new motor bike and the kids say they cant do anything cause I wont pay my maintenance, she told me that I will soon have noting to do with my children.

She placed a dvo on me while I was dropping the kids off after the holidays knowing that I was returning to NZ, this was last year, I hadn't done anything to her at all she just made it all up. I get the letter from the courts when I got home and they wanted me to attend a couple of weeks latter, I ring my lawyer to attend the hearing to say it was all a lie and that I live in NZ so I no threat to her the judge told my lawyer that as I didn't show this proved that I was guilty and slapped a 2 year order on me. Where is the justice.

The year before when I dropped the kids off she beat me in the face and head with her fists in front of the kids, we had just had an orsome holiday together and as I stood there taking the abuse I look at the kids and there eyes told a horror story I didn't touch her as I am a man, I asked her new boyfriend to control this women he was also in shock, I went to the police and asked them to charge her with assault, they said that they would follow it up too decide if charges would be laid, THEY BELIEVED HER AND HER boyfriend's STORY, No one was charged. I have had child well fair on to them a couple of times because the children tell me of abuse from the boyfriend and her, each time my children are not believed and they say to me why cant you do something about it they think I don't care and I feel a loan I have tried to commit suicide twice and failed, it seems to me to be a womens world out there.

Any suggestions will be more than helpful

I really hope you guys get your funding to continue, I read some of the posts and feel for all of you, I have decided to get stronger again and if possible try and start a similar service here, if there is no group here in NZ, I will need your help as I am not that good with computers but I am going to try. even if I can get a copy of your setup to get me going let me know if this is at all possible, I will use my own money to get it off the ground it I cant get funding at first., I can really see this helping thousands of Kiwis in the future.

Thanking you all

Kiwiwasa

G'day kiwiwasa,
The things you have mentioned are quite typical of some of the things some ex's get up to.
I am unsure if DIDs has reached into NZ with a group. A call to 1300 853 437 will answer all your questions about the organisation.

You will be amazed how much useful info you can get on this forum. Tell your story here in full and watch the replies.

DC