I would be interested in hearing stories from any Fathers who have been succesful in gaining custody, or even simply getting a better deal in their access. What are the things that you did that worked out a lot better than you planned? or, alternatively, what did the childs Mother do that lost her custody, or made the magistrate want to give you, their Father, more custody or access? How did you capitalize on her mistakes?

Most of the sites for fathers have a lot of the same:

She left, got all the money and house.
I hired bottom feeding solicitor, goodbye money that I had left.
I hardly ever see my kids.

The majority of the Fathers in here know the pain of the above situation, and if you are just starting your journey on this raw, emotional, minefield... the separation from your children...then I wish you well.

REMEMBER THIS:

Success leaves clues. So,

If you have had success, or know someone who has success...EVEN SMALL SUCCESS...then tell your story here, so that those who travel after you may use your success.

What helped me get a really good agreement for son (2yrs).

I knew what I wanted and why I wanted it.

I knew why what I wanted was best for my son.

I knew that my solicitor worked for me, and I made the decisions ..

I knew that the "experts" I encountered were only doing their job and if they didn't undestand my story, then it was up to me to educate them, even the reluctant (biased) ones.

I did a number of parenting courses because i was interested.

I did my research

I was willing to trade small or non important points but not the major ones.

I was quite willing to change my lifestyle to accommodate what I wanted.

I didn't NEED custody ... but I did need influence .. so I insisted that our orders were residence/residence and the final official outcome was 29/71 her way which has shifted to 42/58 through "natural" shifts.

I agree oneAdad, do your research, on parenting, her, build networks with friends, centrelink, CSA, anyone and everyone. The ole "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" applies. One of the best things I did was hire a female lawyer that has had it with what women are doing. How did I find her, again research, ask everyone you know, find the trial of success and follow it. The reason I chose a female lawyer is they have the same mind to out smart.
I have 50/50 shared, the writing for further change to my benefit is now on the wall, my case is almost there. Witnesses, school teachers, doctors and friends. Patience and a clear mind shows the way for "what is best for the children"
Best of luck to all of you.