The key to anger reduction is knowing yourself. This is what I have learnt, and try to practice .
My collection of Quotes over the years......I hope they are helpful, or add your own . I'm just a collector.......the theory is easy .......living it out I find much harder, yet do-able.

Do important jobs now before they become urgent.

When you make mistakes, learn from them rather than getting angry.

Don't criticize, condemn & complain because it makes you angry
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Learn to say no.

Choose a job you love and you will not have a day of anger in your working life.

Most problems are really the absence of ideas.

Think ahead... anticipate... do it or get it done, even if second best... you will be less angry.

Organize your mind and organize your desk for six minutes every hour.

Accept what you cannot change & change what you cannot accept.

Ask even stupid questions to avoid mistakes to further avoid others getting angry with you.

Say sorry at the right moment to reduce the anger of others. For every 10 minutes you are angry you lose 600 seconds of happiness. A little pot soon hot!

A short pencil is better than a long memory. Use it to reduce your anger.

Nobody can make you angry without your consent.

Never get angry with a man who has nothing to lose.

The most common occupational disease of a poor executive is his inability to listen. The result is anger.

Never reply to a letter when you are angry.

Nobody can disgrace us other than ourselves. So why get angry?

Anger is a luxury in which only men of abundant means or absolutely no means can indulge.

Never go to bed with an argument unsettled. Biblical Quote.

Expectation breeds frustration. Frustration breeds anger.

Work is the best remedy for all angers. Men who do not know how to fight anger, die young.

Make common sense your best friend to reduce your anger and the anger of others.

Indecision makes you angry. Therefore, decide this way or that way.

If all else fails, lower your standards to make you less angry.

You cannot change others as easily as you can change yourself.

Do not just catch your employees or your children doing wrong things; it will make you angry. Catch them doing right things.

When you want to get things done, use creative ways to remind people as they tend to forget conveniently; this will reduce your anger.

Most people remember 20 % of what they hear... understand this fact to reduce your anger.

Do your best , frustration is the furilizer of anger.

Colin

Hi dadycool , good to bump into oneanother again, always delights me to re-meet.

And thank you for your explanation of Hostile Aggressive Parenting. Yes DC, you make a good point as my descission to place it here. Thanks for allowing me to share.
It seemed in my own common sense , a reasonable Forum Topic to place it.

Having read some of the postings I thought that 'manipulation' is fueled by aggression.....anger, Hostile seemed to fit , creating undue difficulties stem from frustration, jealousy and end in subtle anger , which comes dressed in sheeps clothing. Along with unfairness, inequality , and conflict , which usually ellivates everyone's blood pressure.

Yet DC, I am delighted to place it elsewhere is you see that it is confusing to folk. Please let me know on the post or privately.

We all deal with many frustrated Dads Mums and kids , and we can all be rightly angry , yet not seek revenge. Thanks for your response , I will await your thoughts, and thanks Mate for being here.

CHANGED THE TITLE, YOU'RE RIGHT, IT WAS AMBIGUOUS, THANKS FOR DRAWING MY ATTENTION TO IT.
Oh well! Keep on living and learning Colin.....
Best regards Colin

Thanks dadycool, and thanks again for the help in reposting. I copy out the info now-a-days, as I am becoming senile early , or need defragging , but your encouragement ment a great deal to me. So may I send back to you, and trust that mostly you are doing ok.

Thanks for the words of needful redirection to the title.

Col

THOUGHT THIS MAY BE OF VALUE TO OTHER DADS,........ .......AS IT WAS TO ME. I CAN SEE MY WEAKNESSES, CAN NOW RELATE TO, AND FACE THEM, AS WELL AS CHANGE THEM,.....WITH CONCERTED EFFORT AND PRACTICE.

I do hope it is an encouragement, not a put-down , as we can all have times of Irritable Male Syndrome can become a problem for men, particularly as we get older. We often become more sensitive and grumpy, but don't recognize that we are acting differently. If we are aware that our relationships are more stressful, it seems like the other person is causing the problem.

I used to tell my wife, "Of course I'm displeased , who wouldn't be? You're always going out of your way to irritate me." She would give me a look that said, "What are you talking about? I was just trying to say something nice to you."

Granted there are times when our partner is acting mean, but isn't aware of it. But more often than not, I found it was me who was over-reacting.

So what type of an irritable male might you, or someone you love, be? Here's a list of the nine types.

Please don't use to prove to someone that you don't have a problem. if your behaviour is a causing stress in your family, take it seriously. On the other hand, don't use this to prove someone else has a problem because they scored "high" on the test.

For each feeling noted, check whether it is true of you (or the person you are rating) Not at all or rarely, Sometimes , Frequently, or Most of the time. .

Remember that these aren't meant to be value judgements. They don't mean that you are wrong or bad. Often our particular type may have genetic roots as well reflect the kind of stressful environment we grew up in and may be experiencing in our lives today.

Understanding yourself and the way IMS may be expressing itself in your life is the first step to making things better for you and those you love.

Type 1: Grumpy
Men who fall into type 1 are often hypersensitive. Little things can set us off and we become annoyed and angry. We are sure that someone else (often our partner, family, or co-workers) are doing things to irritate us. Often it's the people who live with us who suffer the most. It's the most common type and most difficult to recognize in ourselves.

Type 2: Fearful
Men who fall into this category are often fearful and worried. We feel that if something can go wrong, it probably will. We are often on edge and nervous. Although we don't always show it we are very self-critical and judge ourselves harshly. We can also be quite jealous and worry that our partner may have a wandering eye.

Type 3: Aggressive
Men who fall into this category are very angry. We may seem serene and quiet on the surface, but when we feel stressed or overwhelmed we can explode. We may break things in anger, hit the wall, and at times become physically aggressive with our partner. On the highway we can become the poster boys for road rage if we are not careful.

Type 4: Unappreciated
Men who fall into this category often feel unappreciated and unloved. Whether we are with a partner or on our own we have a deep feeling of sadness and loneliness. We try and be nice and accommodating but it seems that we give more than we receive. We long to have an intimate partnership, but our hidden anger often pushes people away.

Type 5: Uncompassionate
Men who fall into this category have a difficult time empathizing with others. We are often quite independent and self-sufficient and we have trouble with people who are emotional. Those close to us say we don't communicate or share our feelings. We often have suffered emotional wounds and don't want to risk getting hurt again.

Type 6: Exhausted
Men who fall into this category are tired a good deal of the time. We often feel stressed at home and at work. Life can seem overwhelming at times and we think of getting away from it all. Our energy level is low and it seems we are often running on empty. We may have difficulty sleeping. We often feel we haven't lived up to our potential.

Type 7: Impulsive
Men who fall into this category are unpredictable. We can be impulsive and excitable. When we are feeling at our best we can be lively, fun, and outrageous in a positive way. When we are down we can become defensive and argumentative. Things can be going along well and all of a sudden something sets us off and we blow up.

Type 8: Escape
Men who fall into this category cover their feelings with alcohol and other drugs, food, T.V., and computers. We use nicotine to give us a boost as well as to relax. We may smoke marijuana. Alcohol is often a significant presence in our lives. We often over-eat and spend hours lost in front of the T.V. or the computer. We want to zone out.

Type 9: Bored
Men who fall into this category act bored, but often feel frustrated. We feel quite cynical about life and often think that things are going down the tubes. Although we are dissatisfied with the way things are we don't have much hope that things will improve. We can be quite cutting in our remarks and often don't realize the pain we cause.

Remember that these aren't meant to be value judgements. They don't mean that you are wrong or bad. Often our particular type may have genetic roots as well reflect the kind of stressful environment we grew up in and may be experiencing in our lives today.


I'm pleased if it wasn't helpful to you , as it was for me . You are an incredibly well balanced person.
I only wish I was , yet Iam working on it

Very best regards Col.