As a member of the forum posted recently that information derived from posts on the forum has been accessed and used in an attempt to influence aspects of his life.

In this post mentioned is the fact that information had been sent to his employer and this site contacted with complaint.

It is important to all who chose to write on the site to know that this is a public access forum and the conditions the forum operates on are well displayed in red.

It is easy when you are in darkness to reach out for light and a helping hand to find your way through trauma, this often causes a bond and trust between members and those who help realise some times you just need to " VENT " or " SCREAM AT THE MOON " but in this there should still be caution that very specific details are avoided unless you are willing to be identified.

This in no way is slur on any member as I myself have posted enough personal situational detail to be identified by relevant parties, though I have not suffered at it's hands although I was well aware I could have.

Part of the support of getting through is to talk and listen, tackle the fears in this case written then helping others find a medium that allows them to focus their energy in a positive way, sometimes when venting truth, perception and a mild form of altered reality can exist especially if there is emotional or mental abuse .

In the despair and the confusion many things can change and alter, add this with the fact children are missed and it's all gut wrenching and to just let it out to someone is a gift.

CARE should still be taken and I often write " just share what you are comfortable sharing ".

I am only a member of the forum I am not a moderator or attached to DID's other than posting on this forum and my posts will stand but I would suggest to any who feel they may have placed information that they are concerned about, re-visit their posts and edit them.

Being a public forum allows all access to the forum including opposing parties, government agencies and any other person who wishes to view posts.

I do not know the circumstances of events nor do they matter. This is just a reminder that caution may still be required.

None the less I am sure the moderators and Tony would agree this is indeed a rare event. And that support will remain for those unable to access DID's meeting or indeed those who are not capable with dealing directly with the issues when they first enter the affray.

That is a good post D4E, and a timely reminder not to say anything on any public forum that One would not want repeated elsewhere.

I have found it difficult at times to answer or express in a post a true situation without giving details of things that are times better off left unsaid and/or remaining in the homeplace.

The support here is amazing and One does feel amongst friends (or at least companions in arms) and I only wish I found the site sooner.

It can of course give the poster a false sense of security "that no one else is listening" and at another forum where I participate in, they have a list of people who are viewing that particular thread. Its interesting to see the numbers of guests viewing the posts yet want to read what is being said....

Couldn't agree more 2ndfamily.

Although it takes immense courage to write and participate there are also immense benefits.

I am sure many guests read ample amount of posts before becoming members or chose to simply read posts and responses because they feel akin to the situations and actually benefit from them. Many times I have read " I've been reading the forum for a while but this is my first post ". This of course is a positive step in the right direction.

In saying this there are guest who are on fishing expeditions.

If anyone is in need of more security with there situation you can also Personal Message members by using their chosen identity in the members list, some also provide e-mail addresses as well as some very good web sights to view.

As you say 2ndfamily even responding in support may need some thought not only for identification but also because the wound may still be open and the pain raw, many times you feel like saving the person from what you know is coming but to gain in ourself we have to experience that pain ourself.

Thanks 2ndfamily

Yes i agree with your thoughts D4E in regard to the replies, we can see the drop of the fall, but the writer has yet to experience the edge of the cliff....

How does One tell someone "not" to go down a certain track. I have seen posts where my skin has prickled.

I do hope though that people in positions of power read some of the stories, I would really hope that they could make a difference.