Yep

Truth is without places such as this forum men never stood a chance before unless they were well educated in the system or could afford a good lawyer.

It's soul destroying when you have faith in the propaganda a system sprouts about itself only to discover that they opperate under a different criteria. I recieved the unofficial directive was to keep the Mum happy and the Children will be happy, and achieve this at Dads expense even if you have to mentally crush him in the process.

I think one of our problems is we still have faith in the system, we need to educate ourself to use the system to the best advantage of ourself and therefore our children. Men are educated to accept that sharing is the best policy where women tend to be educated in I want everything.
Exception do exist in both area's and this is a braod generalisation.
My X was a classsic promised a relationship to be encouraged between myself and my step-children and that she would never stop my daughter from seeing me, well she had her fingers crossed and mummbled
" providing it goes my way " and the system supports this.

Best thing that can happen is to make every decission inthe court published and accessable to all. This way we can see if the Judges are honest as well as the lawyers.

I do her that mediation is slowley changing and that the true interests of the child are comming into the fore. Lets hope it improves to the max

D4E

Yes, I'm back here again.

Are the FRCs doing any better? Ie., is BIC better met now?

Has the number of dids committing suicide dropped? If not, is the dad a neglegible parameter in the BIC equation?

Wouldn't it be better then to spend more money on enhancing the role of support groups like Dids, Inc?




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The bottom line is, why should the mother be dictating the terms and the father has to go through all that hassle of fighting every step of the way just to see his children?

I can't say personally if the mediation centers are working but a few people have commented they have had success with mediation.

It's hard to say if suicide numbers for DID's has dropped I would actually expect it would have increased due to external influences and depending on their circumstances.

I would also say from certain things that have been written Dads are increasing in value towards BIC.

And More money will always improve the quality of support as would a government funded media campaign to do with male issues similar to what exists for females. Or infact run the the existing campaign for people and not against males.

So, FRC has some successes. But at what price? How much money was spent on FRC?

What's the percentage success? 9% or 90%?

How is success defined here anyway?

I did succeed in getting my contact application approved by RA which made my ex- unhappy. So, the CLR (now the ICL) assigned another person, a child protection expert (according to him), to submit another report that was completely pleasing to my ex-.

Is this success? I say this is BS.

As mentioned in the beginning, the mother can always oppose any recommendation the FRC makes and the father then has to go through expensive litigation.

Perhaps, the unofficial directive is still to keep the mother happy even if it means at the expense of the father. Perhaps, the lawmakers believe that the children are better off without the father if that's what the mother wants. After all, the father is not important in the BIC equation. Who cares if more fathers commit suicide?

We're back to square one, aren't we? Or, as I said, they're just rocking the boat.





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The bottom line is, why should the mother be dictating the terms and the father has to go through all that hassle of fighting every step of the way just to see his children?