Last year i met a girl, and stupidly managed to get her pregnant, she was from the US. I ended up selling everything i had and went over there at her behest and due to believing i was in love with her and within a couple of days i was told she didn't care for me and basically she didn't want to even try. Things went pear shaped and i went back to Aus as my being there was causing her too much stress and i didn't want to hurt the child. Since then the baby was born (little boy and such a cool little fella) and i have not been give nothing from the mum, no photos, nothing, but for some reason the thought of having something out there that was apart of me made me come to see him in the states. Now i have been allowed time with him, i truly never thought i could love something so much, but the relationship between me and the mother is extremely strained to say the least. I will be back in Aus in a few days as i am not wanted here as it stressing the boy (supposedly) and the whole family too much, and visas say i will have to anyway. I only want to be with him, and i am afraid the mother can do what she wants and i will never have no input at all into his life. Does anyone know what rights i do have as technically an Aussie and being on the other side of the world away from him?

Sounds like you are in a bind. I have heard of other guys in the same position who have been able to establish and maintain contact with their kids but unfortunately I have no direct contact with them. If you are still in the US you should contact an Aussie embassy over there asap and ask if they can recommend any agencies there that could assist you. When you get back over here please call the mens centre on 1300853437 or by email to

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and someone there will have some contacts to assist you.
Hang in there
Chris