Yet another milestone was reached today.

Just found out the kids Mother withdrew the kids from schol & daycare respectively, without knowledge, consultation or consent from me.

passed this info on to solicitor.....

Got another family report on Monday...will be the first time i have seen the kids in 5mths then....god knows how they will react to me or how i will react given the false situation that we will be placed under.

As if this week isn't stressful enough.....

Hey Paul,

Sorry to hear things going astray again, perhaps it's because of the meeting on Monday that she has done this to further put the kids life out of kilter and effect there routine, we all know this can see children cling more to the care giver, well care giver as a perception of the law any way.

Just be you and be happy to see them, that just a simple honest emotion, try not to be too concerned with other things till they happen and react to them after the meeting, hard as it seems this could well help them feel safe.

Best of luck for Monday spending time with them will be awkward at first but I hope they see the dad you are.

godders, the family report is always a daunting thing. But I think it often works out better than we hoped, at least in our case it did.

We didn't know what to expect at the time ie: the interview with you and the kids will be to see how you all interact with each other. Worth taking in some photo's etc so that they can play catch up of that 5 months. Can take some of the sting out of the nervousness of the whole thing and does not simply rely on your sitting there trying to find something to say.

thanks... i took in some photos that i put together in an albumn and flicked through them with the kids...

Yesterday, with the social worker was very uplifting; the kids wanted to be with me & said so too, none of the kids in the workers view displayed any signs of trauma of the allegations, which is good news as I was concerned they would have been very much poisoned with the Ex’s rubbish. Not the case. Joshua stated several times, he wanted to be with be and for Mum & Dad to talk. Joshua was upfront in the individual interview and told the interviewer that “mum said not to kiss or hug dad” etc. She really is a nasty piece of work BUT the day was very emotional for me & he asked the kids why Dad is crying, kids response was because he doesn’t see us. They are smart kids…I just hope the written report is as black & white as the interview was and the courts take this into account and it goes to trial ASAP.

Need to try to obtain the transcripts of the original interview and see if any 'leading' questions were asked of the kids....they are still being 'played' by their Mother as apparently i had gone to their schools and jumped fences and nobody saw this apart from joshua. Crazy stuff.....28th is the next date...first day in court......geez.

godders, the coersion will go down extremely poorly against your ex. I think the courts will hold a very dim view of some of what you said.

When you get the family report it will give you feedback on what the ex said to the report writer when interviewed on her own, what the children said when interviewed on their own, what you said, then about the interaction between the various parties ie: the kids with you and the kids interaction with their mum. The tough thing now is that your ex will read that and know what the kids said, so she will probably give them a bit of a hard time, like my partners ex did with the kids.

It sounds like you went well in your report. Will be interesting to hear what the report writer feels.

hey godders, it seems that went well but do not expect the report to be as black and white as you would like, FRW tend to sit back a little but at the same time they include enough in the report that gives a strong hint to the courts as to what is going on (in their opinion)

hang in there mate, bit by bit and you will get there, the kids are helping by what they say and the bond is obviously there between you all and it will get stronger by the sound of it, it sounds like they may even think less of mum for what she is doing and think more of you for hanging in

stay cool, patient and focussed, it may take time but from what you have posted, you will get there and that above all is what matters most, cheers mate

Just a note to wish you luck godders.

Stay cool and keep plugin

thanks for the support.

keep ya posted on it all

Wow..im now number 7 on the waiting list for the contact centre....
oh and the prices have changed from $22 per visit per 2hrs....to..............
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$70 per visit, per 2hrs!!! will apply to CSA to get change of assessment doen if thats the case

Hi mate, so how long is that you have been on a waiting list. How did you feel about the meeting. do you believe the mediator was impartial?
Hang in there
Chris

Hey Spike,

yes i think it went really well, and feel the writer was impartial though i wish i hadn't of said one thing during the interview..... we'll see if that goes in the report

Just weeks to go now till court date....holding up well....

Cheers all,
Paul

Got the report in the email yesterday arvo when i got home.

Have to say, the report reflected the day, with respect to the kids attitude to me, mine to them & it highlightedthe inconsitencies from the X that came out.

I dont think i could of asked for a better report...fingers crossed this will hold a lot of weight as it is meant to.

The flipside to this si that X must of got it before me as in the arvo i got a call from the local cops claiming X had made stalking allegations anbout me........WTF I explained i have a DVO and also that the meeting went well the week prior so it is all conencted as apyback. When asked how what would happen now...she said she will need to speak to her senior and will advise........ i'll wait for this now.....

It's similar to de-clawing a cat when you pull one nail out it scratches you with the next, you just have to wait till the last claw goes.

All you can do it weather it out best of luck D4E

Took out a DVO against the Ex due to ongoing harassment from her through the cops..it was ajourned to 13/08/08 to allow her to seek advice......no protection order in place in the meantime.

Oh well, see what happens on Monday, after all thats the Family Court day....

Cheers,
Paul

They probably think it'll be sorted on Monday.

You could give her some advice yourself " Stop f%$#@ harassing me "

Best of luck for Monday